Wow, thanks for all the advice.... Hate to admit it but yes I have a histogram thingy... Nope - not the faintest idea what it really was showing.
And I must have hit the 800 iso by mistake as I usually leave it on 200 or 400 but maybe my OH had been using the camera.
I was using his big lens, a zuiko 140-300 which he bought to do aeroplane photography with, I figured it would let me get closer without disturbing the butterflies, but admit it WAS rather heavy being hand held, he has a monopod and a tripod so I will maybe borrow that. I was thinking of splashing out on a Macro Lens as they seem to get good reviews.
Yes I take a pic, study it mutter about blurring etc and then delete it. Editing software EDITING software?

.... Nope I don't photoshop the images, just upload and look at them and crop them down to size.But I do have some pics that I thought were a bit dark so maybe I will take another look at them. I will go an look at the pics on OH's computer as he has photoshop on his one, I don't have it on my laptop.
I have problems getting my head around depth of field, and and focal length. I sort of go by, If it's F5 then it will focus around 5 ' give or take a little bit which is almost certainly bollocks but is easy to remember.
Not a photographer I'm afraid, - I just like taking pictures